Speaking of Donald Trump ... — St. Peter's Fireside | Vancouver, B.C. 

by Alastair Sterne
November 15, 2016
8 min read

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It’s fair to say vehement disagreement is our current norm in the political realm. Whether it’s Brexit, President-elect Trump, President Duterte of the Philippines, or something else — there are deep rifts emerging and serious ideological conflicts arising. The intensity of how people disagree is also escalating. Understandably so. But discourse is falling apart, not entirely, but in many instances. The result is that the ideological rifts are widening, causing more division and harm. How can we disagree well while maintaining our strong convictions? Is it even possible to disagree in such a way that brings us together rather than divides?

On a more serious note (sarcasm-mode activated), I was recently in a conversation with an acquaintance who had the audacity to claim that he is a Christian Anarchist—an impossible merger of worldviews, in my opinion. Throughout our conversation, something happened that I am sure every believer has experienced at some point when confronted with opposing views: I felt myself beginning to question this person’s integrity, character and motives. All of a sudden their value as a human being was compromised in my eyes, and all because we were disagreeing over theological concepts that are important to me. I desperately wanted to cry anathema, the Greek word employed by Paul and various Catholic Canon’s for expelling someone from the community of faith—OK, I get nerdy and self-righteously orthodox when I’m frustrated. But this inaccessible posture of superiority seeped into my tone and the arguments I used in our disagreement. I was full of conviction. I lacked civility.

In retrospect, this is greatly disconcerting—and indicative of conversations many Christians have every day in the workplace, in the church or on comment boards. If we can’t be civil with someone who Jesus claims as family, how can we be expected to engage civilly in any other discourse? How could we possibly engage meaningfully in the polarizing rhetoric of the current public discourse in politics? As a Canadian married to an American, how can I exist in the realities of Trudeau and Trump?

I am still convinced my acquaintance was wrong in his convictions, but not nearly as wrong as Trump or Duterte are in many of theirs. But how do I converse meaningfully with people who support what Trump or Duterte are doing, or even some of the things that our own Prime Minister and Parliment are doing? That is the challenge. As Christians, we are a people with convictions, and this is particularly perplexing for us when dialoguing with others. Our convictions can lead to hot tempers infused with aggressive and careless word, but all in the name of righteous indignation — right?

You can compromise truth for the sake of being civil, or you can compromise truth by your lack of civility. Neither are admirable or Christ-like.

Lutheran scholar Martin Marty has observed that people who are good at being civil often lack strong convictions, and people who have strong convictions often lack civility. We face a dilemma: falling into either category compromises truth. You can compromise truth for the sake of being civil, or you can compromise truth by your lack of civility—by being right in all the wrong ways. I’ve seen and held both postures and neither are admirable or Christ-like. In his book Uncommon Decency, Richard Mouw suggests that the real challenge is to come up with a convicted civility. Jesus demonstrates such a posture time and time again.

Or does He? Isn’t He the one who flips over tables because of his convictions? Yes. Isn’t he the one who resorts to calling those he disagrees with a “brood of vipers”? Again, yes. Yet I would suggest that this is not normative behaviour for Jesus, nor is it prescriptive behaviour for us. In the gospels, Jesus more often than not responds to those with whom he disagrees with grace, tact and truth. In his epistle, St. James writes, “the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19-21). Jesus is the only person whose anger truly can produce the righteousness of God, while our anger is generally compromised by our brokenness and finitude.

Convicted civility takes root in us when we focus on what the cross tells us about our brokenness and about the value of the person sitting across from us. Christ on the cross is where we must always begin when engaging other people.

Jesus’ convicted civility is most clearly on display in his radical inclusiveness and exclusiveness. Jesus is radically inclusive. He is willing to dialogue with people and engage with them where they are, and as they are. He will dine with sinners and the outcasts without condemning them—He lived freely in the tension that their convictions and lifestyle were in contrast to his own. Yet, he maintained truth and standards that demanded total loyalty. His inclusivity never compromised his convictions, as he called for trust in him exclusively. He invited all into repentance out of their sin. But Jesus also affirmed their value, while not condoning the aspects of their lives that did not align with the ethical dimension of the Kingdom of God. This all seems so messy and gray, right? Yet Jesus is capable of living in these untidy areas. So we must ask, how can we adopt such a posture?

Mouw suggests a basic rule of thumb for the posture of civility: “Concentrate on your own sinfulness and on the other person’s humanness. ” This posture is cruciform. The cross brings us to an awareness of our own corruption, rebellion, brokenness and misplaced convictions. It knocks us off any pedestals we might want to prop ourselves up on and we fall onto level ground at the foot of the cross. The cross is radically inclusive, all are welcome and nobody is so foregone as to have excluded themselves from the offer of God’s saving love. The cross also tells us of our immeasurable worth to God. It is because of love that Jesus was willing to sacrifice Himself for us all. The cross is the extent to which God is willing to show us that His love has no bounds.

Convicted civility is born when we focus on the humiliation of the cross for ourselves and the exaltation of the cross for others. It takes root in us when we focus on what the cross tells us about our brokenness and about the value of the person sitting across from us. Christ on the cross is where we must always begin when engaging other people.

The beauty of a convicted civility is that it helps us to hold on to truth in a way that doesn’t preemptively end conversations, while also opening us up to the possibility that we may not have it all figured out.

Convicted civility is a helpful corrective for those of us who tend to be right in all the wrong ways. Truth matters, but so does our posture and the way we communicate it. We can maintain our convictions and learn how to disagree in ways that do not resort to ad hominem tactics. When someone is “wrong,” it doesn’t change their intrinsic value to God. Simultaneously, their value to God does not justify anybody’s erroneous ways or opinions. Remembering one’s worth as a person for whom Jesus gave His life should challenge the way we disagree with them. Yes, they are broken, but so are we. If we focus solely on their ‘wrongness’ we will likely be condescending, and whatever truth we may have to impart will be lost. Rather, focusing on how much Jesus values them helps us engage brokenness with the grace, patience and tact that Jesus has offered to us.

In our civility and willingness to engage in humble, loving dialogue we might actually learn a thing or two. The posture of civility will open us up to correction. Focusing on the worth of the person sitting across from us opens us up to listen to them and their message. Civility allows dialogue to remain loving and gentle even in disagreement.

The openness of a convicted civility is beautiful because it is ultimately the posture of our Saviour. It should change the way we engage with fellow believers—and it should ultimately transform how we engage with every single person. We need to be willing to be humiliated for the sake and the worth of others, because Jesus was the one who was humiliated for our sake. This isn’t an easy posture to take, but the One who has the only true and just convictions also has the humility to be patient with us—even the Christian Anarchists, even the Christian distortions of Evangelicalism, and yes, even Donald Trump.

A version of this article was originally published at Relevant Magazine.

about the author
Alastair is the lead pastor at St. Peter’s Fireside. Once upon a time he was a touring musician of a forgettable indie band, and a Creative Director at a few design agencies. He is the husband of Julia, the father of Ansley and Maggie, and quite skilled with "the photoshop." If you're feeling up for it, you can follow him on Instagram.

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